A man who thinks he must proclaim his headship over his house probably needs to reassess. If being the head means anything less than being the chief servant who loves and sacrifices and gives for the sake of the family―anything less than the primary example of wisdom and grace―then he is not the kind of head that Jesus has called him to be. Biblical headship is all about sacrificial love for every member of the household. It always seeks the good of each individual as well as the whole, and it places their good ahead of his own convenience. Asserting the “right” to be served, or left alone, etc. is not a sign that one is the head, but is rather a clear indication that he is the tail (if you know what I mean).

Jesus said: “And whoever of you desires to be first shall be slave of all. 45 For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.” ―Mark 10:44-45